Online Dating is Not a Contest
Online dating is not a competition between competing males for the attention of a female. Grow up. Change your mind set from “winning” to “searching”. This isn’t high school. You are all grown up and have been for quite some time, now. Your attitude is the most important asset you have. You should like yourself and not concentrate of all of the things that aren’t YOUR idea of the perfect guy…the one the all women want.
What is that women want, you ask? That’s the age old question. Being of the female persuasion myself, I can tell you a few things women want and don’t want.
Women want a man to be confident…NOT an arrogant jerk. There’s a big difference. You need to like yourself and not be self depreciating but you don’t need to come across like you believe that you are a gift to them from God and have just fallen from the sky. They don’t want you to think that THEY just fell from heaven and are some kind of perfect being, either. They can’t live up to that expectation.
Women want a communicator. The “strong silent type” really isn’t appealing at all. They think you probably don’t have an original thought in your head and you probably haven’t heard a word they said, either or that you just don’t care what they said or didn’t even hear what they said. They want you to be interesting enough to want to know more about you and they want you to think that they are interesting enough to ask intelligent questions about what is important to them, too.
Women do NOT want to be a prize to be won. They don’t want to be a trophy. They want to be the ONE woman that you want to be with.
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How Do I Choose the Right Site For Me?
With the explosion of online dating sites has come a virtual smorgasbord of choices. There are free sites… I don’t recommend those but if money is a real concern, they are better than nothing. There are the large paid sites with many and varied features like chat, IM and even matching using profiles. There are the less expensive paid sites with few features. There are special interest sites for almost any thing you can think of…outdoor enthusiasts, couch potatoes, religious, non-religious, gays, lesbians…like I said…almost anything you can think of. So what’s a girl to do? A girl should choose the site or sites that best fit her needs.
Here are some things to consider:
1 Cost. How much do you want or how much can you spend each month for your membership s?
2 Features. Which features are the most important to you?
A Profile matching systems. Is this a feature you really want or would you rather decide who is right for you all by yourself?
B Chat and IM’s? There are websites who offer chat rooms and IM’s on their sites. Does that matter or would you be happy just sticking to private email.
C Outside Events…such as speed dating? Are you interested in that?
D Privacy. Some websites allow you to limit who can view your picture or your profile. Does this matter to you or do you want as wide exposure as you can have?
E Safety. There are websites who do background checks of all subscribers and certify their age, marital status and background. Would you feel safer using this feature?
These are a few things but not all things you should consider when choosing an online dating service or services. Do your homework and choose wisely for the best results for you.
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Online Dating
Online dating is very popular today with the advances
of technology and the increase of people who use
computers. Online dating is a system for organizing a
date and can be an excellent way to meet that special
someone.
Today, online dating is one of the most popular
systems for meeting someone new to go on a date with.
There are many online dating websites you can visit
and see people who are looking to meet someone new.
You can post your picture and create a profile on one
of them too.
This will allow you to tell everything about yourself.
This way, people can see if you enjoy the same types
of activities they do and you can see if certain
people look to be like someone you might be interested
in.
Online dating has proven to be a successful method for
meeting people and setting up dates. Many people have
continued their relationships and even been married
through online dating methods.
All relationships through online dating aren’t
successful but you may meet a new friend if you are
not compatible for dating.
When you consider online dating, it is important to
remember you need to be safe. The Internet is not
always what it seems and people are not always honest
with everything about themselves.
You should be sure when you go on your first online
date you are somewhere you feel comfortable with and
be sure to protect yourself at all times.
You can have a fantastic experience and meet your
perfect match but you don’t want to be a statistic
because you believed everything the other person said
on the Internet.
Dating Etiquette
When you go on a date there are certain things and
ways you should behave. Of course you want the person
to get to know you so you shouldn’t try and be someone
that you are not.
When you go out on a date you should look and dress
nice. This will show the other person you care about
your appearance but you also care about what they
think about you. If you don’t care about what the
other person thinks then you probably shouldn’t be
going out on a date with them.
Depending on the person you are taking out you should
also remember to open the car doors and all doors for
your date.
If the woman you are going out with is a feminist,
then let her open the doors and do things for herself
or it will bother her. She also will want to pay for
her own meal.
If you are not going on a date with an independent
woman who is a feminist then you should open the
doors, be on time when you pick her up, and be
prepared to pay for the entire date.
Don’t take your date somewhere you cannot afford and
never find yourself asking your date for money to
cover the bill.
Dating etiquette also includes not making the other
person feel as if they are on an interview. It is
common for people on a date to ask many questions and
they just want to get to know the other person.
However, don’t make them feel as if they are on an
interview or you might scare them off. Be sure to
create a comfortable atmosphere.
Double Dating
Double dating is a fun way to go out and have a good
time with your significant other. It gives your date
the opportunity to meet your friends and it also can
provide a comfortable experience for someone who might
be a little nervous to go out on a one-on-one date
quite yet.
Double dating is an excellent idea if you want to meet
someone new and you aren’t quite comfortable with
being alone with them yet. You can invite a couple you
know to come along too.
This allows for you to be around people you are
comfortable with while you are getting to know your
date. Some people like to go on a double date first so
they are not so nervous on the first date.
Going on a double date also gives your date the
opportunity to get to know you through your friends.
It might be a good idea to invite a couple that will
say good things about you if you really like your date
and you want to see them again.
Your date can get a good idea with the type of person
you are by who you are hanging out with and the things
they say about you.
It is a really good way to get another perspective on
the person you are going out with or if you want your
date to know more about you.
Double dating provides a comfortable experience when
you don’t want to go out with your date alone but you
do want to get to know them.
In addition, double dating provides an excellent way
for you or your date to see how both of you interact
with your friends and get a different perspective.
Building Your Confidence in Dating Women
When it comes to dating (or even seducing) a woman, confidence is vital. Women often equate “self confidence” with the ability to be successful. While many men believe that women look for successful men because they’re likely to make more money, that’s simply not true.
While it’s a given, women actually look for successful men because they’re more likely to be satisfied. So you may be wondering what a man being satisfied has to do with anything. Let me explain. You see, women know that men who are satisfied with themselves are less likely to go out looking for someone to satisfy them and are more stable.
And in a relationship that means a man will be less likely to cheat, or change jobs frequently or get himself into any number of other compromising situations. Remember that most women are looking for a man who will be their partner as well as their lover.
Not only do they want a partner when it comes to things like companionship, decision-making and finances, but in the bedroom, as well. In order to effectively seduce a woman you must make her feel as though you’re both equals.
When it comes to confidence, it seems there are two kinds of people – those who have it and others who simply don’t. Although on the surface this may be true, everyone has the potential to be “self confident”, or motivated if you would like to call it.
Take heart in knowing that you’re a good person, smart, funny, good at your job, loving, considerate or whatever else you find to be positive character traits that you have. Be comforted to know that NOT all women are looking for a CEO or brain surgeon. They just want a man who’s confident with who he is, what he knows and what he has to offer to a relationship with them!
